Advice- Family Relationships are Made, Maintained, and Enhanced through Action   by Shevach Pepper

Important straight forward advice: family relationships are made and bettered by ACTION. Sounds simple, right? But many people spend hours and hours, night after night, month after month surfing the web or reading articles about how to better their relationships. They read until their head bursts with inspiration, anecdotes, and good advice about family relationships but unfortunately they never DO too much so they remain with poor relationships.

I agree that you should so some research and seek out advice to better family relationships. However too much thought and not enough action actually hinders reaching your goal to have healthy, positive and wholesome relationships. Here are two reasons why:

*ILLUSION: When we plan and research too much we fantasize and believe that we have already reached the goal so we stop working. This idea is powerfully illustrated in a parable by Aesop many years ago.

Patty the Milkmaid was going to market carrying her milk in apail on her head. As she went along she began calculating what she would do with the money she would get for the milk. "I'll buy some fowls from Farmer Brown," said she, "and they will lay eggs each morning, which I will sell to the parson's wife.

With the money that I get from the sale of these eggs I'll buy myself a beautiful new dress and hat; and when I go to market, won't all the young men come up and speak to me! Polly Shaw will be that jealous; but I don't care. I shall just look at her and toss my head like this. As she spoke she tossed her head back, the Pail fell off it, and all the milk was spilt. So she had to go home and tell her mother what had occurred.

"Ah, my child," said the mother,

"Do not count your chickens before they are hatched."

* DETERIORATION: Lukewarm, problematic or dead relationships usually grow worse with time, no matter how justified and honorable the reason for not dealing with it. For instance, if your child has a tooth ache but you don't want to bring him to a dentist until you do extensive research on different modern methods of filling cavities, who is the best dentist in your neighborhood and the least painful way of doing it. Although you only have little Johny's best interest in mind, if you don't get him to a dentist this little cavity could develop into a root canal!

It is the same with relationships: if you don't do something to better them they are likely to down-spiral until it will be very hard to fix up. So, for your own happiness, take my advice: family relationships are made, maintained and enhanced only through action and not by brooding and planning to do something.

About the Author

Shevach Pepper is the happy father of 12 children. Click to get a free copy of his helpful ebook Hello, I'm _____ An inventory to make, preserve, and enhance relationships. To learn more about him; visit Shevach's biography .

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